Monday, November 30, 2009

Keep Pressing

November 30, 2009 Monday
I pray that everyone had a great Thanksgiving. We had the best Thanksgiving weekend we have ever had here. It was awesome!!
When you are heading toward your goal; your destiny, there will be those that tell you that you can’t make it, but I say, “Yes you can.” There is nothing that can prevent you from reaching your goal; except the limitations you place on yourself. Remove the extra baggage that comes in the form of self-doubt, unforgiveness, bitterness, low self-esteem, criticism, your heritage, your past, and so on. Don’t let doubters talk you out of your prize. Keep pressing toward the goal; your destiny. Prepare well for your journey; for it isn’t easy, but it is attainable. Never give up and give it all you got. Don’t leave anything here when you are done. The old saying, ‘you can’t take it with you,’ is very true.

Sunday, November 29, 2009


November 29, 2009 Sunday
As we get closer to the end of the year and we look back at the year; what do you see? Do you seen missed opportunities, broken relationships, career problems, financial problems, etc.. Or do you see where you made positive changes in your life, took advantage of the opportunities. When adversity comes; we have two ways of looking at it. One is to say, “Why me,” and the other is to say, “Why not me.” Look at adversity as an opportunity. We will never grow to our fullest without adversity in our lives. Use the adversity as a step to the next level in your destiny. Don’t complain and whine about having adversity in your life. It’s going to be there no matter what you do; so make it work for you, rather than you working for it. Adversity as bad as it seems can be your best friend.

Saturday, November 28, 2009

Finish Strong

November 28, 2009 Saturday
I want to congratulate Coach Jeff Kelly and the Jackson Aggies on reaching the Super 6. It’s been a great year so far; now it’s time to finish the drive. That is something a lot of folk have trouble doing; finishing the drive.
How many times have you been trying to reach a goal and stop before you reach it? It may be weight lose, a relationship, school, financial, a career, or state championship. However, too many times when we get frustrated because we aren’t seeing the results that we think we should; we give up. The opposite is true too.
We get so close to the goal; can see it within reach and then relax and lose the intensity. When you can see the goal within reach is when we need to take it to the next level. The hardest part of the climb can be the last few feet, but that is no time to relax and lose our focus. Focus on the goal at hand and finish strong!!

Friday, November 27, 2009


November 27, 2009 Friday
We all develop patterns in our lives. Whether it’s driving the same way to work every day or like me; I cut the grass in the same exact pattern every week. Some patterns or habits are really good. Like showering and brushing your teeth. However, not all patterns or habits are good for us. This time of year we start looking at the New Year and resolutions. If we start changing unhealthy patterns right now by the end of the year we will have already got our resolutions done. By waiting until the first of the year, we haven’t made the changes we need to make and that are why so many people never accomplish their New Year resolutions. So let’s start today on Black Friday. Change your unhealthy patterns beginning today.

Thursday, November 26, 2009


November 26, 2009 Thursday
Happy Thanksgiving! Enjoy your day and spend some time with family and friends. Today is a day not to be taken for granted; so make everyday a thanksgiving day; in that we are thankful for God has given us. Too many times we focus on what we don’t have or what we have lost during our lives. However, by doing so; we lose the grateful and thankful heart that we need today.
I am so thankful for Melissa and Gloria; those two are the most awesome wife and daughter ever. I am also thankful for my extended family and in-laws. I have been so blessed to have folk that will stand by me and will allow me to stand with them during the good and the bad. Lastly, I am thankful for all of you guys that read my blog and have encouraged me during the writing of Embrace Your Destiny and now The Right Way not My Way; thank you all very much.

Wednesday, November 25, 2009

Put it on

November 25, 2009 Wednesday
What a great time to be alive. You were born right at the exact time and place that you were supposed to be born. You may not always think so, but your destiny disagrees. You are here right now for a purpose; not by accident. Never curse your birth or your life. When others curse your birth or life; don’t listen to them. The ‘I wish I had never been born’ or ‘I wish you had never been born,’ comments have to go. Be thankful for your life. Even if today it isn’t the life you had dreamed for. That too can change. Put on the garment of thankfulness and make the best of your day. Each day we do this, we will see change take place in our life. Thankfulness or gratefulness is a major step toward your destiny.
Be sure and check out to purchase your copy of Embrace Your Destiny, makes for a great Christmas gift. Thank you for making it a success.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Grateful lifestyle

November 24, 2009 Tuesday
This is a week that we all look at what we are thankful for. However, wouldn’t be great if we lived a life of gratefulness. If we didn’t have to wait all year to show folk that we are thankful for them. By developing a lifestyle of gratefulness or thankfulness we are having thanksgiving all year long; just without the sweet potato pie. But the benefits of a grateful life are even sweeter than the best sweet potato pie. Be thankful for the folk God has placed in your life; even those you might not necessarily like. There is a reason they are there. As we talked the other day; iron sharpens iron. So they are more than likely there to get some of the rough edges off of you.

Monday, November 23, 2009


November 23, 2009 Monday
This being Thanksgiving week; it is appropriate to talk about the things that we are thankful for. I want to look at that from a slightly different perspective. That is; what are thinking about. Your thoughts will determine your direction. If you are thankful for something then you will think about it. So look at fills your mind; is it things you are thankful for or not. We can choose what we think about; no one can control our thoughts; that is only if we allow them to do so. Thoughts cross our mind all day and night, but what are you choosing to spend time thinking about. If you are unhappy in your life right now, then check your thought life. Your thoughts determine your life.

Sunday, November 22, 2009

First Things

November 22, 2009 Sunday
What is the first thing you think of when you wake up in the morning? Besides, I hope I make it to the bathroom… The first thoughts of your day are vital to your day. First thoughts set your focus for the day. They set the mode or the attitude for the day. So if you think negative thoughts first thing; you have already set your mind in a negative thought pattern. Reverse your thinking if that is the case. Begin your day with the most positive thoughts. Focus on the stuff that is going right. If you don’t think anything is going right; then focus on what you want to go right. Think about where you want to end up; not so much where you are, if that is the case.

Saturday, November 21, 2009

Reach for it

November 21, 2009 Saturday
I want to give props to the Aggies of Jackson High School. They have advanced to the 4th round of the state football playoffs. As Bubba Butts says, “Only four quarters to Tuscaloosa.” That’s where the state championships will be played in two weeks.
Do you seem to be saying, ‘nothing good ever happens to me,’ ‘I might as well give up,’ ‘I never get the promotion,’ ‘I guess it’s just always going to be like this,’ and so on? There is so much more in store for you in life. Don’t settle for second best in your life. Reach for the top of the mountain. Don’t settle for the average, mediocre lifestyle so many others have settled for today. Keep striving for the best. Believe in yourself and your gift/talent to get you to where you are supposed to be in life.

Friday, November 20, 2009

Walk it out

November 20, 2009 Friday
Many times we let go of our dreams because of our past. There is nothing in your past that will stop you from reaching your destiny. We all have made mistakes and wrong choices, but God is still in control. He formed us all and He still has a plan for us. He knew we would make mistakes and those bad choices, but He has not given up on us. If God believes in us; then why should we not believe in us too? If you don’t see your life going anywhere; do a check-up and see where you are missing it. There is a path for you to follow; get back on the right road toward your destiny. No one can stop you from reaching your destiny but you. Let’s get on track and walk it out!

Thursday, November 19, 2009


November 19, 2009 Thursday
I want to thank you guys for purchasing my book Embrace Your Destiny. The first day of sales went well. It does make a great Christmas gift. So, if you haven’t gotten one yet, I hope you will consider doing so.
There have been several folk that have mentioned they too would like to write a book, but they don’t think they ever will be able to. I asked why not. I got various reasons why they didn’t think they could write their book. However, I do know if you hold on to your dream of writing a book or whatever your dream maybe; then you have an excellent chance of seeing it through. It’s when we let our dreams die; then there is little to no chance of seeing them through. Keep your dreams alive and achieve them. If your dreams are long gone and dead; then bring them back up. God has given you the ability to dream and everything you need to fulfill your God-given dreams is inside you now.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

It's Ready

November 18, 2009 Wednesday
I wanted to take today and thank all of you guys for helping me make my first book; Embrace Your Destiny, a huge success. It became available last night. You can go to and there it is. Just in time for Christmas; it will make a great gift for your friends. Also, I would appreciate it if you would tell your friends about the website and the book. Word of mouth is the best way to market something. Thank you so much!!

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

listening to you

November 17, 2009 Tuesday
I have really started to practice the best communication skill of all; listening. I know that I don’t know it all and I don’t want to come across as someone who does. However, I do want to learn. The best way to learn is by listening, I never learned anything when I was doing all the talking. I want to hear what people are saying and this includes you. Let me know what your concerns are, what your hurts are, what your defeats are, what you strengths are, what your victories are, and what your vision for your life is too. I want to learn more about you. Listen is the only way I can do that. You are all so awesome and each of you has a gift/talent that hopefully you are using to the fullest.

Monday, November 16, 2009

learning to listen

November 16, 2009 Monday
Learning to listen can be difficult for some, it has been for me, but I am learning. Learning to listen is simply taking the time to see something from another person’s perspective. Sounds easy enough; so why so difficult to do? I am seeing that for me it is pride more than anything. I see that in my life and it hurts me. However, I am turning that hurt into empathy. Meaning that I will begin to humble myself and listen to others. Listening is the way we learn. Also, we have to learn to listen; so it goes both ways. I am hearing much more than I ever have by listening to others; especially right here in my own home. Take the time to listen to others have to say; it is well worth the effort.

Sunday, November 15, 2009


November 15, 2009 Sunday
We are inching every so close to the Holiday Season. People either love or hate this time of year. It is surprising that suicides increase dramatically during this time of year. It is a sad but true fact. People are carrying around so much depression, self-hate, poor self-image, anger, hate, bitterness, and hurts. It may sound too easy, almost insulting, but we have to let those things go from our lives. The longer we hold on to that stuff the stronger it gets in our life. What we feed will grow. If you keep on thinking, talking, and focusing on your failures then you will become a failure. This does not have to be the case though. Focus on what God has done for you and the things you have been blessed with in your life. Let’s make this the greatest Holiday Season ever!

Saturday, November 14, 2009


November 14, 2009 Saturday
When you deposit money in your bank account; things are good. When you take money out; things are not always good, especially if you are over drawn. The same is true in relationships. When you deposit in the relationship account; things are good. When you make withdrawals; things may not be so good.
Okay, all of that to say this; let’s begin making deposits into our relationship accounts. This is really important if you are married, plan on getting married or know someone who is married. It is vital in the life of a relationship. When you invest in someone there is peace and a relaxed atmosphere. However, when you are overdrawn in the relationship account; the smallest things are huge. So let’s start today; invest in your relationship account.

Friday, November 13, 2009


November 13, 2009 Friday
There is a verse in the Bible that says that ‘as iron sharpens iron; so one man sharpens another.’ We know that to be that folk sharpen one another. There will be people in your life that are to sharpen you; as you are in other peoples’ lives to sharpen them. When something is being sharpen for good use there are sparks flying everywhere. So don’t be upset with folk when they are sharpening you. As for us, we have to be careful how we sharpen others. The same iron that can sharpen a blade can also dull it to the point that it is no longer able to cut.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Thoughts Words Habits

November 12, 2009 Thursday
There is an old saying that goes, ‘you will become what you believe.’ There is a lot of truth in those words. There is little doubt that you will end of becoming what you believe you will be. Your thoughts lead to your words and your words lead to your actions and your actions lead to your habits and your habits lead to your destiny.
So the question is what do you believe about yourself? What are you saying about yourself and your destiny? What habits have you developed in your life that are determining your destiny? Circumstances and life itself do not determine what we believe about ourselves; rather it is what we believe that ultimately determines our destiny.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

what you see

November 11, 2009 Wednesday
Happy Veterans Day! Thank you to all of you that have served in our military.
I wanted to get away from forgiveness for a bit. I wanted to ask you; ‘how do you see yourself’? The way you see yourself is crucial to your future, to your destiny, to your peace, to your joy, and so on. If you see yourself as someone who has made too many mistakes and made too many wrong choices then you won’t have a good outlook on your life. If you see yourself as someone that was created by God, no matter how it may look on the outside, and that you have a definite purpose and destiny. We all have made mistakes and made wrong choices, but God is still in control. Allow Him to guide your life and direct your steps. You will see your whole life begin to change. You will still have to go through some rough times, but they won’t last; you will. Take a look at yourself and see what you could be…

Tuesday, November 10, 2009


November 10, 2009 Tuesday
I have gotten a whole of response from this post about forgiveness. For the most part I think that we all agree. Mainly that forgiveness is a process, but we are to forgive. I believe that more we practice something the better we get at it. So if we practice forgiveness doesn’t it make sense that we would get better at it? When you see the results of forgiveness; it only makes sense that we forgive quickly and completely. But holding on to unforgiveness we are the one that is affected negatively. There comes a root of bitterness; which is followed by anger and resentment. While the person we are not forgiving is doing just fine. I am trying to leave a life of forgiveness; toward myself and others. I am quick to ask for forgiveness and quick to forgive. Holding a grudge is like drinking poison; while waiting for the other person to die.

Monday, November 9, 2009

room in the heart

November 9, 2009 Monday
Yesterday my status on Facebook was: can we have the love of God in and not forgive others. I got some awesome responses to that statement. I have gone to another level of understanding when it comes to forgiveness. Not that I understand it all yet and may never understand it completely.
I do see where if I am going to say I am a Christian and that I have God love in me; then I must forgive and forgive completely and quickly. Melissa, my wife, mentioned that grace and mercy are critical to forgiveness. I completely agree. Without those two power twins there is no to forgive. I have gone back again in my life to seek out those that I need to forgive and those that I need to ask forgiveness from; including myself. I don’t see how God can be a part of my life if I am holding unforgiveness in my heart. Is there room for God and unforgiveness in the same heart?

Sunday, November 8, 2009

what does it take

November 8, 2009 Sunday
Yesterday we got into a little about forgiveness. I had mentioned that maybe humility was the key ingredient when it came to forgiving. I know that love is very important, but it seems like pride is the reason we don’t forgive; then wouldn’t it make sense that humility would be the reason that we do forgive. When it comes to it, you have to have love and humility to forgive. All I am trying to determine is why we don’t forgive others and ourselves. Rather than look it from why we don’t; the negative side; I am looking at it from the positive side or what does it take to forgive. The most important thing is for us to forgive quickly and completely.

Saturday, November 7, 2009

Concepts of forgiveness

November 7, 2009 Saturday
Over the past few weeks and even months I have learned a lot about forgiveness. We have talked about forgiveness here on several occasions. However, I don’t think that you can ever cover the subject completely. I have heard and said on many occasions that you know you have forgiven someone when the pain associated with the memory is gone. There are several different concepts that go into forgiving someone; yourself included. Most would probably say love is the main concept, but I am wondering if humility is the first.

Friday, November 6, 2009

love ourselves

November 6, 2009 Friday
It is impossible to love others if we don’t first love ourselves. I know I always had a hard time loving myself because all I focused on were my mistakes and bad decisions. All I could see was the things I had done wrong my entire life. I always thought of myself in the negative person instead of 3rd person. However, I have learned through much pain and regret to live in the positive person. Don’t neglect the negative, but don’t live in it and focus on it. Learn from the mistakes and bad choices; then apply that knowledge. Look at the positive aspect; every situation has a positive and a negative side. What you focus on is what you are become.

Thursday, November 5, 2009

where you heading

November 5, 2009 Thursday
I would like to wish my mama a Happy Birthday today. Today is her 39th BD (again). I am excited about getting to run down to spend some time with her today.
I have been hearing a lot about self-image this week. I know we have covered that quite a bit in some past writings. However, I wanted to say one more thing about it. It goes along with what I have been saying about focus and all that. How do you see yourself? Where do you see yourself in 5 years? The two things that will determine a lot about where you will be in 5 years are the books you read and the folk you hang out with. Those are two of the biggest influences in your life. You may be saying I don’t read books or listen to them on CD or IPod . There you go that will tell a lot about where you are heading. Also, your friends are crucial, because they influence you. Check out your plan and see where you are heading.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009


November 3, 2009 Wednesday
What is it you are you believing for today? What have you been focusing your attention on, because that will tell you what you believe for today? So you see, if you are worrying about something that you don’t want to happen, but all your focus is on that thing, then that is what you are dreaming for today. It is hard to focus on the positive things that we dream about in life. I struggle with that everyday just like some of you. However, I have to tell myself everyday that today is going to be my best day ever. I have to believe for the absolute best out of every day. Set your sights for the best, for the top. Live in a way that can produce the best for your life and see the change it makes.

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

love covers

November 2, 2009 Tuesday
Well, how did your day go yesterday? Did you have the best day ever? Even if life hit you hard with some punches, some body blows, how hard did you hit back? By that I don’t mean you trade one wrong for another, but you respond in love. That is much harder than getting even with someone. If you say you love and have love in you; then no matter what happens to you; you respond with love. That is tough. But I know that it’s not what happens to you, but what happens in you that matters the most. To have to best day ever; we must operate in love that covers all wrongs.

Monday, November 2, 2009

Best day

November 2, 2009 Monday
I hope you’re ready to get started on another week. Let’s all set out to make this day the best day we have ever had and this week to be the best week we have ever experienced. You may be going through stuff right now that makes you say there is no way this is going to be the best day much less the best week I have ever had. If you are trying to make it happen in your own strength then you are right. However, this day and this week were planned long ago by God; He can enable you to make this the best day and the best week ever. Your best days are yet to come!!

Sunday, November 1, 2009


November 1, 2009 Sunday
I have found that we only have freedom when we submit. That didn’t make sense to me when I first heard it, but the more I think about it the more it does make sense. The greatest freedom I have ever experienced was when I submitted everything in my life to God. It has always been my freedom to make choices that messed me up. It was only when I surrendered my freedom to God and submitted to Him that I really found true freedom. Our freedom comes at a cost; don’t take it for granted.